Selective Mutism and Enabling

Ice cream guy: "What's your favorite kind of ice cream?" -Child looks nervous- Child's mom: "Oh, she loves chocolate!" Coming to the rescue is a natural and pure instinct that comes from good intentions. She isn't talking, and everyone feels the tension. So I will be her voice. This is called enabling, where you try to help someone, but it doesn't necessarily help. Something you could do instead is use a combination of small steps and positive reinforcement. Like telling her to whisper it in your ear and then letting her get some extra toppings on her chocolate ice cream.…
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Selective Mutism and Contamination

Certain people and situations can become contaminated. Say, for example, you never talked around Russell. If Russell is in the room, you don't talk. But at home you talk to your mom and dad freely. What happens if Russell unexpectedly shows up at home? Mom, dad, and Russell are all in the living room talking, and mom asks you a question. You may become silent, maybe just non-verbal. Then Russell goes into the kitchen for a soda. Now you can answer her question out loud, but not loud enough for Russell to hear. In this case, home would be a…
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Basic Voice Exercises For Selective Mutism

To become good at talking and to get over anxiety, it is probably a good idea to get the basics down first. Michael Jordan shot thousands of free-throws to get good at basketball, Tiger Woods hit thousands of golf balls to get good at golf, and Roger Federer hit thousands of tennis balls to get good at tennis. If you are trying to talk to somebody new, it will be a lot easier if you're not having to deal with both of these: the anxiety of not knowing what to say and the anxiety of talking to a stranger. Here…
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Selective Mutism Resolutions

If you have had selective mutism, and you have gone to school, chances are that after a long holiday or a summer break from school, one of the resolutions that you emphatically decided upon sounded something like, this time will be different, this time I will talk. Maybe it worked, maybe it didn't. The truth is that this is probably not one of the best ways to go about making a change in your life. If you are dedicated enough and have enough sheer will-power to overcome years and years of conditioning to not talk, then it is possible that…
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Update

The site should be up with more members in the next few weeks. I just have to work out a few kinks, and we will be good as gold =] In the meantime, you can go to the sign up page to join Selective Mutism Online!
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Welcome to Selective Mutism Online

Hello! You are currently viewing Selective Mutism Online, a social networking website designed to centralize the selective mutism world and anyone affiliated with SM. My name is Seth. I read an article in a magazine when I was 16, discovering that the name for why I didn't talk was selective mutism. I got a bit teary eyed, because I'd always wondered if there was anybody else out there like me. Now I knew I wasn't alone. I lived and breathed this thing called selective mutism for years, from nodding my head in elementary school to feeling the effects of depression…
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