• Short answer: Yes! It never completely goes away.
    I’m 53 now and have become fairly good at talking with people I know, but if there are others present I don’t know or feel safe with, I revert back and sit silently, just listening, very anxious. And, to this day, you won’t find a photo of me anywhere on earth with my teeth showing – neither as a…[Read more]

  • jenny replied to the topic I feel broken in the forum General 4 years, 10 months ago

    I think you are WRONG marjohng! do you not understand that selective mutism is about anxiety? why do you think we are afraid to speak? could it be we are afraid of what people will think of us or say or won’t accept us or “like” us ? have you never sat alone in the school cafeteria because you were afraid to approach others? have you ever gone…[Read more]

  • jenny replied to the topic I feel broken in the forum General 4 years, 10 months ago

    thank you Seth. you are so wise for such a young man.

  • Love this site! You are making a differance in people’s lives. 🙂

  • jenny replied to the topic Not a peep! in the forum General 5 years, 3 months ago

    Positive update: Rusty was by by cube again when someone noticed some cardinals on the bird feeder out our back door. As he struggled to see them across the parking lot, I asked him, “Would you like to use my binoculars?”
    “Thanks!” he said as he took them.
    NO ONE thought it odd I spoke. The more I talk, the easier it gets. I even have friends…[Read more]

  • jenny replied to the topic How are you feeling? in the forum General 5 years, 10 months ago

    Marcjohnj, where did you find the cool “selective mutism awareness” ribbon?

  • jenny replied to the topic Adults Living with SM in the forum General 5 years, 10 months ago

    Volunteering is a great way to get job experience and something to put on your resumes. People rarely turn down free help.
    “Unpretty,” are you still interested in being an actress? If you have a community theatre in your area, you might volunteer to help. There is often a need for people to work in costumes or props or lighting or even to move…[Read more]

  • jenny replied to the topic Newbie in the forum Introductions 5 years, 10 months ago

    When I was Grace’s age, I could only speak freely to my parents and my sister and brother, no one else, not even my grandfather who came to our farm everyday! If someone asked a direct question, sometimes I could I could Whisper a one or two word reply, but mostly I could only shake my head yes or no or shrug my shoulders. Like Grace, I would sit…[Read more]

  • jenny replied to the topic 30 yr old with SM in the forum Introductions 5 years, 11 months ago

    I haven’t read those, but I just checked and my library has the one on the sensitive child.
    I just ordered Jessica Thorpe’s book, though.
    Another book I would highly recommend is “Just Listen” by Mark Goulston. It’s the best book I’ve ever read on communication.
    One of my favorite quotes from the book is, “It’s not good enough for us to know in…[Read more]

  • jenny replied to the topic 30 yr old with SM in the forum Introductions 5 years, 11 months ago

    Welcome to the site Windflower!
    I’m glad you are better. When I was your age, I was still silent and friendless. It has only been in the last couple years that I have really become more free.
    I remember once as a teenager I secretly bought a book on “Shyness” and hid it in my room to read, just trying to figure out how to fix “my problem.” Nothing…[Read more]

  • jenny replied to the topic Adults Living with SM in the forum General 5 years, 11 months ago

    You sound like a very creative person.
    The reason I like social work is that I can help people. Also, talking one-to-one in a private intake room is much easier than in a group. I worked in journalism for many years, but the anxiety before an interview and waiting to see if the story was okay was very difficult.

  • jenny replied to the topic How are you feeling? in the forum General 6 years, 2 months ago

    It does take courage… More than I have. 🙁

  • Thanks for sharing your story Bren. I cried too when I first read about Selective Mutism just last February. It’s such a relief to finally know why I’m like this and that I’m not alone.

  • Thanks for sharing your story Bren. I cried too when I first read about Selective Mutism just last February. It’s such a relief to finally know why I’m like this and that I’m not alone.

  • I like sitting beside the lake and watching the swallows flying over the over the water swooping up insects.

  • Hi Kelly, I can identify with you. The more you push yourself to talk, but more confident you become.
    I started a new job a few years ago in which I was required to speak. I have to call people from the lobby and then interview them. At first I was terrified. Just speaking with everyone staring at me was scary enough, but I was sure no one would…[Read more]